Gut-Check for Guys: Re-Thinking Your Approach to Fitness After 40
I seek a sustainable plan for fitness after 40: physical health and feeling “whole” for the 2nd half of my life. I want to feel great, look my best, keep getting happier, and live long. Of course. But how to really do it? We all face—and can powerfully answer—the same questions… 1. Exercise: What do...CONTINUE READING→
Sex in the 10th Decade
He was close to 90 years old and came to see me wondering whether he could still have sex. A widower for several decades, he had just met a “younger” woman, a sprite 75 year old, and he was feeling things he hadn’t felt for years. There was fire in his loins. What impressed me most about...CONTINUE READING→
Why Is My Husband So Mean to Me?
For more than 40 years I have been helping men and the women who love them. In recent years, more and more women are contacting me who are concerned about their husband’s anger and how its impacting their lives. Here’s how one woman described her confusion and concern: “For about a year now, I have...CONTINUE READING→
Talking with Kids About Death
Dear Mr. Dad: My father, who had been sick for quite some time, recently died. He and my 7-year old daughter were very close. Naturally, she’s sad that Gramps isn’t around anymore, but I know that she doesn’t completely get why. Do you think she’s old enough to grasp what death is? If so, what’s...CONTINUE READING→
Living Harder—and Now Longer—with Viagra
Do you know how Viagra got its start? Pfizer developed it to relieve a type of chest pain, angina, that’s associated with severe heart disease. They thought it might work better than nitrate paste or pills, the standard of the day. Guess what? It didn’t. But the men in the clinical trial wouldn’t give the...CONTINUE READING→
Testosterone: 10 Surprising Things Every Woman and Man Needs to Know
In her book, Eve’s Rib: The New Science of Gender-Specific Medicine Marianne J. Legato M.D says, “Everywhere we look, the two sexes are startlingly and unexpectedly different not only in their internal function but in the way they experience illness.” To begin with there are 10 trillion cells in the human body and every one...CONTINUE READING→
Dads Have Pregnancy Symptoms Too. Really.
Dear Mr. Dad: My wife is about four months pregnant and I’m really excited about becoming a new dad. The problem is that I’ve recently put on some weight (which is really weird, since I weigh exactly what I did in high school). I’ve also been having nosebleeds and I’m vomiting a lot (which is...CONTINUE READING→
In Defense of Our Sperm
Nichoas Kristof, in his New York Times Op-ed piece, has side stepped his usual poignant political commentary to pontificate on sperm and its implications for the survival of our species. Got to wonder what he’s putting in his coffee nowadays. Struggling Sperm His piece begins with the notions that human sperm have lost their once-nice...CONTINUE READING→
What Women Want Men to Know About Fear, Sex, and Love
For more than 40 years, I’ve been helping men better understand women so they can have more sex and love and fewer fights and tensions. It’s said that we teach what we want to learn and I’ll admit I’m still learning about the wonderful creatures we call women and how to have passionate, peaceful, and...CONTINUE READING→
Divorced Dads and Babies: Are Overnight Visits OK? Absolutely!
Dear Mr. Dad: My wife and I are getting divorced, and while things are generally amicable, we’re having some major disagreements about whether it’s okay for our two young children, ages three and one, to sleep over at my house. We both want what’s best for our kids, but my wife says that because the...CONTINUE READING→