Dear Mr. Dad. We have an almost two-year old who keeps us pretty busy. Recently, though, my wife has been talking about having a second child. I’m honestly not that thrilled about the idea. We barely have enough time to take care of ourselves and our baby. How are we supposed to add a fourth person to our family?
A: For a lot of couples, the question about whether to have another child isn’t really a question; it’s a given. For others, though, the issue is more complicated. And most of the problems have to do with exactly what you’re going through: one spouse wants a second (or third) child while the other isn’t nearly as excited about the idea. Unfortunately, there’s no easy solution to this problem.
The issue of time, as you mention, is a common concern of prospective second-time parents. Chances are, though, that there are a number of things you can do to free up some time. For example, you could hire someone to clean your house and prepare a week’s worth of dinners. That might give you only an extra 15 or 20 minutes per night, but over time, it could make a big difference. But time isn’t usually the only thing couples worry about.
Making a list of other factors can help put things into perspective for you. Here are a few items to address:
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