According to the National Confectioners Association, more than 36 million boxes of chocolate will be purchased for Valentine’s gifts this year. When you get yet another heart-shaped box from your sweetie on V-Day, don’t lament his lack of imagination. Chocolate is an excellent Valentine’s gift, and not just because it’s tradition. It actually has a...Continue reading
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Soul Mates: Expanding Your Possibilities
I remember reaching my fiftieth birthday. I’d relocated to theSan Diegoarea, was single again, and broken-hearted. I so wanted to be with my “soulmate,” and each time I fell in love, I was sure he was “the one.” Now I’d reached “the big 5-0,” and another relationship had ended, leaving me baffled, unsettled, despairing. After...Continue reading
The Tolerator: Is This Your Style Of Relating To Your Partner?
“I love you just the way you are…” croons this lover to the live-in partner who has just tracked in mud again on the new Berber carpet, and rear-ended a parked car trying a new paralleling maneuver. “Love me, love my shortcomings,” swoons the “Tolerator” partner. Their theme song echoes the ideal of unconditional love...Continue reading
Nurturing Is For Men Too
Many men in our fast-paced, production-oriented culture have no experience of what being truly nurtured feels like. Being able to nurture yourself is the heart of renewal. The nurturing process is essential to an open, clear, free mind, as well as being the foundation for a supple, resilient, unstressed physical body, and for emotional stability....Continue reading
Be Fulfilled: Sexually And Sensually
Most of us assign a high priority to sexual/sensual fulfillment, but few of us attain it. From my personal and professional vantage points, it seems the most important keys are self acceptance, compassion for our partners, free expression, and good communication skills. If we give to ourselves, and extend to our partners from this presence...Continue reading
Intimacy Ignorance vs. Intelligently Intimate
All too many men today have had to mentor themselves into manhood. As a result, a toxic masculine culture has evolved which glorifies a man’s aggressive, competitive, and controlling nature. Bolstered by our media culture, it perpetuates the myth of the “self-made man” compelling men to lead lives of isolation, void of deep, meaningful and...Continue reading