Last Longer in Bed Using Only the Power of Your Mind, Part 1

If you’ve ever opened up Google and searched “how to last longer in bed” you’ve probably ended up with a bunch of nonsense, like:

  • Think of baseball all the time during sex
  • Buy this magical cream and you’ll never cum again
  • Take this pill and you’ll have an everlasting, raging erection that ensure you won’t cum quick
  • Just masturbate all the time until your penis is raw


…Along with a number of other outlandish ways to make sure you last longer.last longer in bed

But if you’re anything like me then all of those ideas sounded awful. You don’t want to think about baseball while you have sex. Hell, you don’t even like baseball. You want to be thinking about the sex and enjoying it and your woman fully.

Creams and pills are fine and dandy, but everyone knows the best sex is spontaneous and unplanned. If you need a cream or a pill before every sexual encounter, you’re going to miss some fun opportunities.

Rubbing one out is ok on occasion, but most of us would prefer to not develop a porn addiction. Plus, girls can tell when your calluses didn’t come from the gym gents.

Unless you have a medical issue, you shouldn’t need anything to help you last longer in bed than your mind. By utilizing NLP techniques and changing how you think, you will be able to last longer in bed without any outside aid.

Here’s how:

Change Your Mentality

The first step in changing your thoughts is changing how you view sex. As men, we tend to think of sex as a means to an end. Stick penis in vagina. Have sex. Orgasm. Sex is our means to achieving orgasm. The only reason we have sex is to ensure we have an orgasm.

However, women think differently about sex. Sex to women is often about much more than an orgasm. Sex is about intimacy, passion, connection and pleasure. Instead of thinking about the end goal of sex or putting pressure on yourself to last a certain amount of time, you should focus on making your partner feel good.


Change Your Thoughts

Your thoughts become your actions. Almost everything in life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you won’t. If you think you’re going to rock a woman’s world in bed, you will. If you think you’re going to bust a nut after 8 thrusts, you will bust after 5.

The key to changing your thoughts is avoiding negative self talk altogether. The human mind cannot differentiate self-talk that includes “no”, “not”, “won’t” and the like. If you tell yourself, “I’m not going to come quickly this time.” Then your mind hears, “ I’m going to come quickly this time.”

Remove all thoughts that use this type of wording. Think things like, “I’m going to rock her world.” Or “I have complete control over my ejaculation.  Stay positive and change the way you think about yourself.



One way to improve your self-talk and change your thoughts quickly is through affirmations. Affirmations are just sayings you say to yourself in a mirror. They are usually positive and meant to reinforce areas of your life you’ve been working to improve.

If lasting longer in bed is something you are working to improve upon, try a few of these affirmations:

  • “I can last as long as I want in bed.”
  • “I’m going to rock her world all night long.”
  • “I last as long as I want in bed.”
  • “I only cum when I want to.”

Repeat each one 10-20 in front of the mirror each morning. If you come up with your own, make sure to not use not or don’t. Again, your brain will ignore any negative.

This is the first in a two-part series. In Part 2, we’ll talk about a number of other techniques you can use to last longer in bed.

Patrick Banks

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Patrick Banks is a Berlin-based entrepreneur and writer, passionate about health and nutrition. He loves motivating people of all ages create a leaner, stronger body and mind. You can connect with Patrick on Wingman Magazine.

1 Comment

  1. Zak HinesJuly 21, 2015

    Really liked this! I think the idea of the self-fulfilling prophecy applies to many areas in life that define whether or not we succeed. I’ve found in my life that these kinds of affirmations work really well but ONLY if you buy in completely. No hesitation. Looking forward to reading part 2!

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