ways to be a better dad

Keys to Becoming a Better Dad

Dear Mr. Dad: This may sound a little stupid, but I’m not sure how to be a more involved dad. I work a lot and my wife is a stay-at-home mom. She seems to have everything under control all the time, and there doesn’t seem to be much of a role for me. What can I do to be a better dad?

A: That’s not stupid at all. A lot of guys are faced with the same issues. Here are some strategies you can use to become the dad you want to be:

Take the initiative. If you don’t, you’ll never be able to assume the child-rearing role you want—and your children deserve. Don’t assume that your partner magically knows more than you do. Whatever she knowledge she has about raising kids, she learned by doing—just like anything else. And the way you’re going to get better is by doing things, too. It’s okay if you make mistakes. In fact, that’s the best way to learn. And it’s okay to ask her for help once in a while, if you’re feeling completely lost. But you need to figure out what works for you.

Dad up. Men and women have different ways of interacting with their children. Men tend to stress physical and high-energy activities; women, more social and emotional ones. But don’t let anyone tell you that safely wrestling, bouncing on the bed, or other “guy things” are somehow not as important as the “girl things” your partner may do (or want you to do). The rough-and-tumble of father play also teaches valuable lessons about regulating emotions such as excitement and arousal. I’ve talked about the benefits of involved fatherhood a lot, but they always bear repeating: Children with physically active dads do better in school, are more social, and are less likely to get involved in drugs or alcohol or criminal behavior than children whose dads aren’t as involved.

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Armin Brott

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Armin Brott is the proud father of three, a former U.S. Marine, a best-selling author, radio host, speaker, and one of the country’s leading experts on fatherhood. He writes frequently about fatherhood, families, and men's health. Read more about Armin or visit his website, mrdad.com. You can also connect via social media: Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest,  and Linkedin.

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