forced fatherhood

Forced Fatherhood? It Happens More Than You’d Think

Dear Mr. Dad: My girlfriend and I talked many times about children and mutually decided not to have any. However, without telling me, she changed her mind and got pregnant. I have absolutely no interest in being a father or raising children, but she’s threatening to come after me for child support. Is there anything I can do to stop her?

A: The short answer to your question is no, there’s nothing you can do to stop her. Society’s reaction to any man who gets a woman pregnant—even if he was lied to about her intentions—is basically, “Tough #$!%, buddy, if you didn’t want kids, you should have used a condom or had a vasectomy.” The legal system’s reaction is pretty much the same: If you and your girlfriend break up (and I can’t imagine how you could possibly stay together after such a major breach of trust), and she chooses to keep the baby, you’re on the hook for 18 years of child support for a child you never wanted. Plus, as an added bonus, you’ll be forced to have an ongoing relationship with a woman you’d probably just as soon never hear from again.

Bottom line: She can do whatever she wants and you have no say in it at all.

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Armin Brott

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Armin Brott is the proud father of three, a former U.S. Marine, a best-selling author, radio host, speaker, and one of the country’s leading experts on fatherhood. He writes frequently about fatherhood, families, and men's health. Read more about Armin or visit his website, You can also connect via social media: Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest,  and Linkedin.
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