Category: Growing Up

When Men Feel Trapped: Lessons About Mental Health from Prison Life

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This essay argues that prison life exposes, in intensified form, the same psychological pressures many men face in everyday modern life: loss of agency, identity erosion, chronic stress, emotional isolation, and the belief that “functioning” equals health. Drawing on conversations with former inmates and observations from prison ministry, the author shows how men unravel not primarily from violence, but from isolation, dehumanization, and avoidance of inner pain—patterns mirrored outside prison through overwork, numbing behaviors, and silent suffering. The piece emphasizes that men heal when dignity is restored through purpose, trusted responsibility, structured community, and honest self-examination, rather than punishment or performance-based worth. Ultimately, the essay reframes men’s mental health as a human and structural issue, arguing that if practices like truth-telling, meaningful responsibility, and brotherhood can sustain men under extreme confinement, they are essential tools for helping men reclaim resilience, identity, and emotional well-being in everyday life.Continue reading

Swipe Fatigue and the Friendship Gap: Why Dating Apps Don’t Fix Men’s Loneliness

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This essay argues that dating apps, while promising unprecedented access to potential partners, are poorly suited to reducing men’s loneliness and may instead exacerbate it by replacing meaningful social infrastructure with rapid, evaluative selection. Drawing on research from social psychology, sociology, and public health, the author explains that durable relationships depend on “friendship markets”—environments with repeated interaction, shared purpose, and social permission for vulnerability—which have eroded for men as workplaces, civic groups, and community institutions have declined. Dating apps function as closed markets that promote choice overload, rejection mind-sets, swipe fatigue, and burnout, exposing men to repeated, cumulative rejection without opportunities for relational repair or gradual connection. Evidence shows these dynamics can undermine well-being, increase withdrawal, and fail to address men’s broader needs for friendship, identity, and belonging. The essay concludes that men’s loneliness is not a personal failure or an algorithm problem, but a structural one, and that meaningful progress requires rebuilding real-world, activity-based, and community-centered friendship markets rather than relying on dating apps to solve a problem they were never designed to address.Continue reading

Masculinity, Health, and the Power of Understanding: Why Dr. Smiler’s Books Make an Impact on the Conversation

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This blog highlights how Andrew Smiler brings clarity and balance to today’s conversations about masculinity through Is Masculinity Toxic?: A Primer for the 21st Century and The Masculine Self (7th Edition). Together, these books offer accessible language and evidence-informed insight into how masculine norms shape health, behavior, and relationships, moving the conversation beyond sound bites toward understanding that supports healthier outcomes for men and boys.Continue reading

Boys Falling Off the Health-Care Map: And How We Keep Them Connected

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This blog, reposted from Dominick Shattuck, PhD’s Substack with permission from the author, examines new research showing how many boys quietly disengage from preventive health care during the transition from adolescence to young adulthood. Drawing on findings from the Journal of Adolescent Health and decades of men’s health research, the piece explores how masculinity norms, low perceived risk, structural barriers, and unwelcoming health systems contribute to boys “falling off the health-care map.” It highlights why this early disengagement matters for long-term health outcomes and outlines practical, evidence-informed strategies for building health systems that keep boys connected to care before preventable problems become lifelong challenges.Continue reading

This Giving Tuesday: Be the Change Men’s Health Needs

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Giving Tuesday is next week, and Men’s Health Network (MHN) is calling on supporters to help close the Lifespan Gender Gap and build empathy for men’s health. This year, MHN expanded outreach across communities, churches, and schools, relaunched the Congressional Men’s Health Caucus, and supported bipartisan resolutions like H.R. 1300 (PSA Screening for HIM Act) and H.R. 675 (Prostate Cancer Awareness Month), advancing prevention and early detection nationwide. From toolkits that reached thousands to Ambassadors leading local events, MHN continues reaching men where they live, work, play, and pray. Your support powers awareness, education, and advocacy that saves lives.Continue reading

Reclaiming Masculinity: The Courage to Be Whole

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In Reclaiming Masculinity: The Courage to Be Whole, Men’s Health Network spotlights the work of Dr. David P. Jachim, a psychoanalyst and MHN Advisory Board member whose book Men at the Brink: Masculinity in the 21st Century explores how modern narratives have distorted society’s view of manhood. Dr. Jachim examines the emotional and cultural costs of labeling masculinity as “toxic,” while calling for men to reclaim the virtues of courage, compassion, and integrity. Through empathy, self-care, and brotherhood, men can resist alienation and redefine strength in ways that heal, not harm. This reflection offers a powerful reminder: masculinity is not the problem—misunderstanding it is.Continue reading

Homicide and the Lifespan Gender Gap

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Summary: Men’s Health Network highlights how homicide contributes to the Lifespan Gender Gap—the nearly six-year difference in life expectancy between men and women. Each preventable death of a young man shortens the national average and represents lost potential, relationships, and community strength. In his article, Dr. Andrew Smiler examines data showing that men account for 80% of homicide victims, with most deaths occurring among young men under 35. Many are killed by people they know, often in moments of conflict or status-related tension. Smiler suggests that prevention begins with education—teaching boys and men how to resolve conflict, manage emotions, and de-escalate situations without violence. Men’s Health Network calls for greater empathy and early intervention to help young men live longer, healthier lives, reminding readers that every life saved helps close the gap and strengthen families and communities nationwide.Continue reading

November: A Month to Focus on Men’s Health and Community

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November is a pivotal month for raising awareness about men’s health and community well-being. From Alzheimer’s and diabetes to epilepsy, tobacco use, and sexual health, each observance offers an opportunity to take action and encourage preventive care. Men’s Health Network emphasizes that health doesn’t take a season off—simple habits, early conversations, and empathy-driven outreach can make lasting change. This month’s blog highlights national campaigns like the Great American Smokeout, National Diabetes Month, and Impotence Education Month, alongside Illinois’ groundbreaking creation of a Division of Men’s Health. It also spotlights the growing Men’s Health Ambassadorship Program—ordinary people doing extraordinary work to close the Lifespan Gender Gap and build healthier communities. Through awareness, advocacy, and everyday choices, November reminds us that improving men’s health is a shared mission that benefits families, workplaces, and society as a whole.Continue reading

Male Suicide and the Lifespan Gender Gap

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October is National Depression and Mental Health Awareness and Screening Month, a time to bring attention to the silent crisis affecting men and boys. In this blog, Men’s Health Network highlights the deep connection between suicide and the Lifespan Gender Gap, reminding us that men are four times more likely to die by suicide than women. Contributor Dr. Andrew Smiler examines the data, cultural pressures, and life circumstances, such as loss of work or relationships, that contribute to male suicide rates. The piece urges readers to break the silence, check in with the men in their lives, and remember that reaching out for help is a sign of strength. Together, we can close the gap and remind the world that mental health is men’s health.Continue reading

Simple and Effective Ways Fathers Can Support Healthy Habits in Kids

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Fathers play a powerful role in shaping their kids’ lifelong health. By modeling good habits—like eating balanced meals, staying active, keeping a sleep routine, managing emotions, and building positive relationships—dads can make healthy living natural, fun, and lasting.Continue reading

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