Mental illness affects men and women of all ages, but can be especially difficult with men. Depression, for instance, can take the form of anger rather than sadness. Traditional masculine roles also make it harder to admit weakness and seek help. However, there are ways for men to cope with mental problems.
Value Success, Not Failure
Many of are perfectionists in some respects, whether it’s our jobs, cars, whatever. But constantly demanding perfection leads to stress, which is a factor in bad mental and physical health. Failure to live up to expectations is often emotionally painful, leading to self-doubt and depression. Remind yourself that failing—or succeeding—at trivial things means nothing. Set small goals that focus on the important and improve your quality of life.
Exercise
Men especially are prone to physical expression of anger. This needs to be controlled. Men experiencing excessive energy or emotion need to turn first to vigorous activity that’s more productive, such as jogging or lifting weights. Doing physical activity often brings better and faster pacification of emotional outbursts than mental exercises like meditation or visualization. Exercise promotes not only better physical health, but improves sleep, boosts confidence, and reduces anxiety.
It’s OK To Worry, But Don’t Vent
Try keeping a journal of your disturbing thoughts which you can review in a calmer mood. It’s important to address troubles before they boil over into explosive behavior. If you experience such outbursts, you may want to consider getting advice from a psychologist or a social worker. A professional with a master degree in social work can help you manage your issues, and provide channels of help such as career guidance or counseling.
Find Meaning, Not Pleasure
Imagine you could live out life sitting by the pool, or watching sports on a big-screen TV. Is that the good life—or is it retreating from life? People are happier and more fulfilled when they seek productivity rather than self-indulgence. Instead of valuing quality of life by pleasure or luxury, value it by achievement. If you find yourself retreating into forms of escapism and isolation, seek out support groups or charities that allow you to contribute, interact, and take pride in what you’re doing.
Anxiety is a part of life, but it can wear you down. How you deal with challenges is a big part of happiness. Healthy lives are about self-empowerment and overcoming bad experiences; otherwise they become toxic.
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